29 Nov 2013


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Here at Also-Me we’ve adopted S.C.A.R.S. – Simple Conversations About Real Stuff – as a theme for the blog and this section of the site.  We believe this will help everyone realize something extremely important, You’re Not Alone!

The first thing we want to discuss is…

What are SCARS?

Let’s look at some definitions: lasting signs of damage, either mental or physical; marks left by a healed wound OR a wound or a hurt.

Do you have any SCARS?  I know I do.  Often we don’t want to admit it, but we all have SCARS.  It doesn’t matter who you are, I promise you, everyone has SCARS.  You can look at anyone around you and say “also-me”. I’ve been hurt, I have doubts, I feel alone or lost,  I don’t like myself, I don’t like my life, I don’t understand why things are the way they are, I want more and many more struggles that leave SCARS.

Some SCARS may be deeper and larger than others; perhaps they are new and still healing or perhaps the wounds are so deep you feel the SCARS may never heal?  The one thing I am certain of is You’re Not Alone!

No matter what you are going through someone else has gone through it and made it out on the other side.  They have not only survived, but conquered it and thrived.  You can do it to.  You’re Not Alone!

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had to face the divorce of my parents, issues with anger, the breaking up and failure of my first marriage, mistakes and failures as a father and the tragedy of what my oldest son did, amongst many other things.  I could focus on the bad things and the mistakes in my life.  They have all left SCARS, but it is what I do with these SCARS that matters.  Do I let them dominate my attitude or do I take something from each experience and become a stronger person?  You have the same choice!

Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional.   You’re Not alone!